I can't believe how far I have come. I have made so many strides regarding the way my family eats and I am really proud to say that it is all really hitting home now. Do I eat perfectly? NO! I am not striving for perfection. I want the way I eat to be sustainable, mostly healthy, and also realistic. It is not realistic for me to say I will never eat white flour, take out pizza, or a snickers again. It is realistic for me to say that I will eat as much whole, real foods as I can, cook from scratch, and introduce new foods to my family.
Some changes I have made......I no longer use any "low fat" dairy products. I switched to whole milk from grass fed cows that is also minimally pasteurized. It taste fantastic and is much better for you than the organic milk I used to buy from the store. The milk is also a lot more local, as it is produced in my home state. It's as close as I can get to raw milk, at least for right now.
I quit buying kool-aid and most fruit juices. I grew up drinking kool-aid but I know that drinking colored, artificially flavored sugar water can't be good for you. I rarely drank the stuff, but my oldest two kids drank it by the gallon! It really worried me so I just quit buying it. Yup, that simple. Though it didn't seem that simple at the time. I struggle with food guilt from time to time, but that's another story. I also cut out the fruit juice because it's really expensive, unnecessary, highly processed (most of the time), and basically glorified kool-aid. I do buy orange juice and organic apple juice on occasion, but it is a treat to have juice now. Eventually I would like to invest in a juicer so I could make our own juice a few times a week. We typically drink water, milk, and an awesome fruit smoothie every day.
I have eliminated most packaged snacks. Yes, even the organic teddy grahams, organic granola bars, and organic snack crackers have been told goodbye. They may have been organic and even sold at Whole Foods, but they really weren't much better than the non organic versions. We snack on popcorn, fruit, yogurt, and sometimes I have cheese and bread. I notice I don't snack much at all anymore.
I have become a HUGE fan of butter. I have always preferred butter, but now I can't get enough of the stuff. I get a large block of yummy yellow butter from grass fed cows. I use it for baking, cooking meats, and it has completely replaced any need for those nasty synthetic oils. I do use unrefined coconut oil for some things, like adding it to smoothies, the boys oatmeal, and some baked goods. I have to be careful with coconut oil because it does tend to leave the food with a coconut flavor and that is not ideal for every dish. I use extra virgin olive oil as well, but it isn't good for cooking. EVOO has a very low smoke point and can turn toxic even with moderate heating. To think I used to cook with it all the time because everyone said it was healthy! I use EVOO in dressings and such but not so much for cooking.
Right now I am working on cereal. Eventually we will phase out of breakfast cereal. This is a tough one because my kids LOVE cereal and they have grown up eating that for breakfast. They do like oatmeal and all my boys like eggs, though my daughter isn't fond of eggs and may be slightly allergic to them. I know I could make some breakfast burritos, waffles, pancakes, and freeze them for quick breakfast options. I don't think pancakes or waffles are my idea of an outstanding breakfast choice, but it is certainly better than the sugar laden, genetically modified brightly colored puffs, with strange and questionable ingredients. Even organic cereals are not much better for you, plus they are quite expensive, and in my opinion taste nasty. I also find that a hot breakfast is so much more satisfying than cold cereal.
There is much more to come.
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Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Toward the finish line
I've made a lot changes since I started this blog. As a whole, I have been eating better but not as well as I could and should be eating. When I think about my former eating habits, I am both ashamed and appalled. Dinners consisted of chicken nuggets, hamburger helper, hot dogs, and was rarely a true home cooked meal. Reading blogs and gathering information has helped TREMENDOUSLY at changing the way I feed my family as well as avoiding pseudo health foods.
I am not striving for perfection, but there are some big changes I still need to make. I won't call them goals because these are things I feel I must do.
I think all of these things are easy, simple changes. These are just immediate diet changes. I will get to the monetary changes I need to make later!
I am not striving for perfection, but there are some big changes I still need to make. I won't call them goals because these are things I feel I must do.
- Eliminate all high fructose corn syrup. Yup, that means that if something has HFCS in it, then I don't buy it. There is always an alternative, even if I have to make it myself.
- An extension of number one.....read food labels. Too many ingredients? Out. Questionable ingredients? Out. I have been much better at reading labels nowadays but I am often swayed by "Natural" products (which can be just as processed as products without the label), and brand loyalty. The second ingredient in my fave BBQ sauce was HFCS!! I will not be swayed by 100% natural, organic, or think that just because I am at Whole Foods that the product must be healthy. The truth is in the label.
- Try a new meal and experiment with vegetables. I am used to canned vegetables. I do love broccoli, cauliflower, spinach, and zucchini but I am used to canned peas, canned carrots, and canned green beans. I love corn in any form. It is going to be tough to program my tastes to like fresh veggies. This is something I'm not used to, and I was raised on canned vegetables loaded with salt and margarine. I had no idea what real vegetables even tasted like!
- Plan my meals. I am still struggling with this one. The main reason I turn to fast food and frozen pizza is because of lack of planning. I know I should be writing a menu every week and then making a list. I never end up doing it and that leads to me 'not having time to make dinner.' I didn't have time because I didn't plan my meals! Spending money on fast food is not only wasteful pocket wise, but it's also unhealthy. It just doesn't make sense when I have perfectly good food at home.
- Eliminate food waste. I love leftovers but sometimes I forget about them and they get thrown out. This never happens with things like spaghetti, but those two leftover pork chops get thrown out all the time.
I think all of these things are easy, simple changes. These are just immediate diet changes. I will get to the monetary changes I need to make later!
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
New Plans
This new year is starting off pretty good. I hate January, I hate the cold bitter winter that always seem to last forever. This year it hasn't been too bad, but old man winter will come. Slowly but surely. What I do love about January is tax season. I look forward to my refund since there are a million things I could do with the money. I e-filed yesterday and sent it on its merry way. I used turbo tax free edition and filed my federal taxes for free. I usually purchase the Home and Business version of turbo tax, but you know what? The free edition was EXACTLY the same. It doesn't offer you the "audit support," but I was more than happy to save the money and file for free.
On a different note......food. I haven't been doing to well on the whole eating better thing. I did (for the first time ever) buy whole wheat pasta for spaghetti. I'm not much of a fan of wheat bread. We always had wheat bread growing up and I always despised it. I was quite skeptical when I bought it but I actually like it. The kids didn't notice the difference either. I'm sold, whole wheat pasta it is. I noticed the kiwi fruit was on sale this week so I picked up a couple, in hopes that the boys would like them. Not a hit. Sahki refused to try it and Keiren didn't care for it. My oldest two had no clue what the "little brown things" were. Gee, I think I need to expose them to different kinds of food more often. Looks like I'm going to be eating plenty of kiwi.
Is it summer yet?
On a different note......food. I haven't been doing to well on the whole eating better thing. I did (for the first time ever) buy whole wheat pasta for spaghetti. I'm not much of a fan of wheat bread. We always had wheat bread growing up and I always despised it. I was quite skeptical when I bought it but I actually like it. The kids didn't notice the difference either. I'm sold, whole wheat pasta it is. I noticed the kiwi fruit was on sale this week so I picked up a couple, in hopes that the boys would like them. Not a hit. Sahki refused to try it and Keiren didn't care for it. My oldest two had no clue what the "little brown things" were. Gee, I think I need to expose them to different kinds of food more often. Looks like I'm going to be eating plenty of kiwi.
Is it summer yet?
Sunday, January 1, 2012
I'm Ready
New Year, new me, new things, and plenty of new things to talk about. Has it really been since September since my last post!!!!! Jeez, where does the time go. I'll save the 'I was busy,' 'My aunt was sick,' blah, blah, blah, excuses because nobody is likely reading this blog right now and it doesn't matter because I'm back and ready to write.
I'm not one to make New Year's resolutions but I have decided to finally get around to doing all the things I have always wanted to do. You know all those things that you always tell yourself you can't do, or that it's silly or a waste of time BUT deep down you always wonder what if? Well I'm just going to do it. I am going to stop making excuses and make time, pursue my dreams (within reason, I'm not quitting my job) and do my best not to eat crap, save the planet, and raise four kids in the meantime.
I'm not one to make New Year's resolutions but I have decided to finally get around to doing all the things I have always wanted to do. You know all those things that you always tell yourself you can't do, or that it's silly or a waste of time BUT deep down you always wonder what if? Well I'm just going to do it. I am going to stop making excuses and make time, pursue my dreams (within reason, I'm not quitting my job) and do my best not to eat crap, save the planet, and raise four kids in the meantime.
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Unexpected Interruptions
Things have been insane around my house. Between working, taking care of the kids, and getting very little sleep I have not had time to blog. I wish I had something funny or insightful to write about, but I do not. I can't believe that it has been so long since I have logged on. It's been over a month since my last post. I didn't start a blog to simply abandon it, so I plan on getting back into the swing of things.
On top of everything else I am going back to school. I don't know where I will ever find the time to study, but I plan on succeeding. Perhaps I bite off more than I can chew.
The kids have adjusted to their new school better than I hoped and are making plenty of friends and really enjoy their new school. My twins will be starting daycare really soon and I am really nervous about it.
I promise to be back very soon.....
On top of everything else I am going back to school. I don't know where I will ever find the time to study, but I plan on succeeding. Perhaps I bite off more than I can chew.
The kids have adjusted to their new school better than I hoped and are making plenty of friends and really enjoy their new school. My twins will be starting daycare really soon and I am really nervous about it.
I promise to be back very soon.....
Friday, July 22, 2011
Hot Mess
Things have been insane. It's not that I have had nothing to write about, but I had zero time and no Internet access at my new home to write something. But things have changed. I now have the Internet, a loaned laptop, and a few spare minutes.
I have officially split with my husband. We are now in separate homes, two and a half hours away from each other. I have been feeling a lot better than I thought I would. It's amazing the comfort that my four kids can provide. I also LOVE my new house. We are all adjusting quite well and I love my much shorter commute to work.
What's new? Hmmmmm.....tons. I'll start with the awesome. There is a two year old on my lap as I write this so my time is dwindling. Damn. Oh, there is a Whole Foods. I love Whole Foods. I love that it is finally HOT. I love summer!! I love spending more time with my children. I don't love them just because they are my children, but because they are funny, interesting, intelligent, sweet, and did I mention they are FUNNY? Well, at least my oldest two children. We are still waiting on my twins to start talking but that's a whole different story. I love them anyway. I love my house. I love personalizing it, it grows on me more and more each day. I love cooking something everyday and eating it with my kids. I am enjoying the small things and looking forward to the future.
The not so awesome. I didn't have my trash can faced the 'right' way and my very full garbage was not picked up this week. My trash can also became a fly haven and we all know what happens when flies discover trash. That's right, I got a trash can full of maggots. Disgusting. I definitely won't miss trash day ever. Lesson learned at least. I am also broke. Actually broke is putting it nicely. Too many bills, not enough money, too much work. I have been working 6 nights a week. I can't wait until I can cut back to five nights a week and spend more time with my kids. I am exhausted most of the time. It can be tough having to do everything yourself, without a partner to help you. My husband is a great help, but we live far away from each other. There is nobody to help give baths, make dinner, clean, it all falls on me. It's tough. It never feels like I have enough time. Now, one of my two year olds is playing with my lamp. He's so cute. I am going to let him play with my cell phone so I can finish this post.....okay, I'm finished.
I have officially split with my husband. We are now in separate homes, two and a half hours away from each other. I have been feeling a lot better than I thought I would. It's amazing the comfort that my four kids can provide. I also LOVE my new house. We are all adjusting quite well and I love my much shorter commute to work.
What's new? Hmmmmm.....tons. I'll start with the awesome. There is a two year old on my lap as I write this so my time is dwindling. Damn. Oh, there is a Whole Foods. I love Whole Foods. I love that it is finally HOT. I love summer!! I love spending more time with my children. I don't love them just because they are my children, but because they are funny, interesting, intelligent, sweet, and did I mention they are FUNNY? Well, at least my oldest two children. We are still waiting on my twins to start talking but that's a whole different story. I love them anyway. I love my house. I love personalizing it, it grows on me more and more each day. I love cooking something everyday and eating it with my kids. I am enjoying the small things and looking forward to the future.
The not so awesome. I didn't have my trash can faced the 'right' way and my very full garbage was not picked up this week. My trash can also became a fly haven and we all know what happens when flies discover trash. That's right, I got a trash can full of maggots. Disgusting. I definitely won't miss trash day ever. Lesson learned at least. I am also broke. Actually broke is putting it nicely. Too many bills, not enough money, too much work. I have been working 6 nights a week. I can't wait until I can cut back to five nights a week and spend more time with my kids. I am exhausted most of the time. It can be tough having to do everything yourself, without a partner to help you. My husband is a great help, but we live far away from each other. There is nobody to help give baths, make dinner, clean, it all falls on me. It's tough. It never feels like I have enough time. Now, one of my two year olds is playing with my lamp. He's so cute. I am going to let him play with my cell phone so I can finish this post.....okay, I'm finished.
Friday, July 1, 2011
Misogyny
While I was at work a few weeks ago, I overheard a conversation between some of my coworkers. One girl, lets call her L, was talking to another group of women. L is splitting with her live in boyfriend and they share a very young child together. They are struggling to find a custody situation that will suit both of them, and he wants to be the primary parent. L goes on to say that she believes this is best because she thinks it will be too hard for her and she admits that he is more qualified to raise the child. I thought it took a lot of guts for her to admit that, and she shouldn't be ashamed to admit that. Sometimes, someone else IS better equipped to care for a child. Now the reactions of my coworkers SHOCKED me. L was pretty much told to fight tooth and nail for her daughter, that she could do it, and it summed up to:
"Don't let some dude raise a baby. We all know women are much better equipped to handle a child. It doesn't matter what the situation is, everyone will think you're a bad mommy if you give him custody. We will think you're bad and it will be true 'cause you 'let' your baby live with the father."
Nobody seemed to listen to the fact that SHE SAID he was more qualified. His schedule worked better, he was more patient, and he was a loving and devoted dad according to L. She did not want the full time responsibility and found it to be too challenging. Now, she probably could have stepped up to the plate if she had full custody, but she didn't have to. She had a perfectly acceptable person (the child's FATHER!!) who was more than happy and willing to do it. She may be a great mother, but she knew her daughter was better off staying with her father. I really didn't understand the reactions of some my coworkers, it was as if the guy was an asshole for even thinking about asking for custody. If she was a terrible mother and left him with the baby, then that would be different. But to want custody? How horrible for a man to want full custody without it being forced upon him. How dare a father want to be a father.
The only reason she was being tsk tsked at was because she was a mom and a "real" mom doesn't "give up" custody of their kid. The idea that a man couldn't possibly do a good job, or that it doesn't matter how awesome a dad may be, staying with a mediocre mom is far better because a dad has icky man parts. This kind of thinking is beyond wrong and blatantly sexist. No, I don't think L is mediocre, she is probably a great mom. There's even the chance that she is being too hard on herself. BUT, if someone is admitting to me that the best place for their child is to live with the other parent, I'm going to respect that. I will respect it whether it is a man or woman who tells me this.
I hate misogyny. This kind of thinking isn't just bad for men, but bad for women. It further enforces the stereotype that all women are made to do is make babies and bake stuff. That if you aren't better than a man at baby raisin' and bread bakin,' then who are you better than? You must be a pretty lousy mom if (gasp) a man is better off taking care of the child. A man is only a few steps better than a pack of wolves. This kind of thinking takes us all back.
"Don't let some dude raise a baby. We all know women are much better equipped to handle a child. It doesn't matter what the situation is, everyone will think you're a bad mommy if you give him custody. We will think you're bad and it will be true 'cause you 'let' your baby live with the father."
Nobody seemed to listen to the fact that SHE SAID he was more qualified. His schedule worked better, he was more patient, and he was a loving and devoted dad according to L. She did not want the full time responsibility and found it to be too challenging. Now, she probably could have stepped up to the plate if she had full custody, but she didn't have to. She had a perfectly acceptable person (the child's FATHER!!) who was more than happy and willing to do it. She may be a great mother, but she knew her daughter was better off staying with her father. I really didn't understand the reactions of some my coworkers, it was as if the guy was an asshole for even thinking about asking for custody. If she was a terrible mother and left him with the baby, then that would be different. But to want custody? How horrible for a man to want full custody without it being forced upon him. How dare a father want to be a father.
The only reason she was being tsk tsked at was because she was a mom and a "real" mom doesn't "give up" custody of their kid. The idea that a man couldn't possibly do a good job, or that it doesn't matter how awesome a dad may be, staying with a mediocre mom is far better because a dad has icky man parts. This kind of thinking is beyond wrong and blatantly sexist. No, I don't think L is mediocre, she is probably a great mom. There's even the chance that she is being too hard on herself. BUT, if someone is admitting to me that the best place for their child is to live with the other parent, I'm going to respect that. I will respect it whether it is a man or woman who tells me this.
I hate misogyny. This kind of thinking isn't just bad for men, but bad for women. It further enforces the stereotype that all women are made to do is make babies and bake stuff. That if you aren't better than a man at baby raisin' and bread bakin,' then who are you better than? You must be a pretty lousy mom if (gasp) a man is better off taking care of the child. A man is only a few steps better than a pack of wolves. This kind of thinking takes us all back.
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